What We Offer
EDGES
EMBODIED BOUNDARIES & THE POWER OF HEALTHY AGGRESSION
5-weeks of learning, practice, and witnessing in real time to:
Learn how to say no and f*cking mean it
Be heard, seen, and understood.
Make moves towards the life you want.
Be able to protect your space.
Set limits.
Know what's yours and what's not.
Hold your center.
Repair past ruptures.
Come out of the haze of confusion.
FIND THE SEAT OF YOUR POWER & VITALITY
For many of us anger & boundaries feel like big edges.
How do we say no, when we've been conditioned to give to others? How do we wield the immense power of our anger rather than suppressing it or letting it come out sideways?
Without clear edges, we meld into other people's needs, feelings, desires, and we start to feel foggy and confused around our own.
There's a lot of talk about boundaries out there in the self-help ether.
And most of them tell you how you 'just need to say no', 'people don't deserve your energy', 'cut out anything that doesn't serve you.'
But what does healthy relating actually look like with complex multi-dimensional people?
It has to go deeper than words or avoidance. It has to be embodied. And we have to be willing to hold the complexity of needs, limits, and boundaries with ourselves and the people we love and care about.
Embodied boundaries create a coherence where your words, facial expressions, body language, and energy are all saying the same thing. No mixed messages.
Our bodies need to learn what this actually feels like.
In EDGES you'll know what to practice & how and have the space to practice, together.
Whitney
If we don't find ways to release and express our repressed anger, we'll become numb to our own life. Staying stuck in a baseline of irritation and annoyance without the ability to create movement and transformation.
Without embodied boundaries, we will stay caught in a cycle of extraction where we constantly feel depleted. Or, we'll create such rigid boundaries that we can't let in the nourishment and support we need for true thriving.
EDGES is
for you if
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You have a hard time understanding your needs & desires
You often feel drained, taken advantage of, and depleted
You feel unclear in your interpersonal dynamics
You have a hard time sensing where you begin and others end
You struggle with saying no and setting limits
You always seem to end up with the short end of the stick
You feel irritated/angry often, but don't know how to work with those feelings
You struggle to feel safe in your body
You have a hard time moving toward the things you want with power
You tend to go along with what other people want to your own detriment
You feel like no matter what you say, you aren't being heard
You feel stuck in worry and anxiety
You struggle to let in support, care, help - you have a hard time receiving
EDGES is
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You want to keep looping in mental strategies
You're unwilling to get your hands in the mud and practice
You think your boundaries are someone else's responsibility
Learning how to work with our anger & have an embodied understanding of our boundaries is vital if we want to come into right relationship to ourselves, others, the natural world.
EDGES will guide you through 5 powerful weeks of learning, practice, and witnessing the work in real time.
WHAT YOU'LL RECEIVE
5 live teaching + practice calls
EACH LIVE CALL WILL BE 2-HOURS LONG. THE FIRST HALF, LEARNING. THE SECOND HALF, PRACTICE. YOU'LL ALSO RECEIVE SPECIFIC EXERCISES THAT YOU CAN START TO IMPLEMENT RIGHT AFTER THE CALL.
WEEK 1: Nervous System States - Learn how to track your nervous system and understand what's really happening for you. Get clear on how your fight response shows up and how to actually work with it.
WEEK 2: Right-Placed Anger & Understanding Anxiety - When anger doesn't get directed where it wants to go, it gets turned inward and creates heaviness, depression, collapse, anxiety and keeps us looping in an inner and outer push-pull. Tools to start to mobilize and work with your fight response and understand the difference between fight & flight.
WEEK 3: The Four Embodied Capacities of Boundaries - Boundaries aren't just about keeping things out. They are the ability for your inner gatekeeper to feel safe enough to let in what's good and keep out what isn't. We'll practice each of the four moves: penetrate (move toward what you want), lean back (lean away from what you don't), push out (remove what's gotten in your space that isn't healthy), receive (allow in the good stuff).
WEEK 4: NO - Period. Full stop. Words, face, body, energy all aligned, all sending the same message. Learn how to know if your body and your words are communicating the same thing. Boundaries are really hard if we are out of coherence.
WEEK 5: Expanding Capacity & Wielding Power - The difference between catharsis and being able to hold the charge of your own healthy fight response. Starting to grow our ability to hold anger and not collapse under it. To utilize it and alchemize it into clarity. When we can stay with the charge, our discernment in being able to know what is ours and what is someone else's dramatically increases. Working with our power rather than giving it over to someone else.
These are foundational teachings and practices. After teaching this work for almost 6 years, these practices are the same things I return to again and again and again. Both for myself and with my clients. Simple. Effective. And life-changing if practiced.
4 live coaching demos w/ q+a
Watch the work in real time. You'll get to witness session work so you can land the embodied knowing even more deeply in your own system. Watching this work in real time is a powerful educational piece that usually stays behind closed doors or in 'training' environments. You're going to get to witness like we would in a communal setting outside of any kind of formal training.
Sometimes watching someone else embody their boundaries, speak their no, settle in their nervous system, find clarity, etc., is the medicine you need to make the move you haven't been able to make. I've seen & experienced radical changes happen from witnessing. That's what embodied work does. It starts to tune your nervous system to new possibility and goes deeper than intellectual learning.
There will also be time to ask lots of questions. Boundaries can be complex, messy, nuanced territory and it can be easy to get stuck in confusion. So I want you to create a space to share and unshame this territory.
Closing digestion + integration call
A final call to review, digest, and integrate the learning, as well as take the time to share celebrations, learnings, and any shifts that have started to happen. A perfect way to close out 2023 and set you up for the new year.
These are powerful tools and foundational skills, but this is not quick-fix instant healing.
These tools are part of teaching you to live in an embodied way.
That is a life-time devotion, and these tools are radical companions for the wild mystery of being human.
"I have worked with many wonderful coaches and mentors with years of experience. And, I had never been in a space with someone who is a trauma expert and can guide processes with such deep care.
Whitney's integrity and skill are felt through time and space through zoom. I can only just imagine what working in person must be like. I could go on, but just know you are in incredibly gifted hands. In a world, history and life where I have always felt rushed, this course felt like blossoming at my own pace; at nature’s pace. I get the feeling that the effects if this course will keep blooming for years to come. Thank you thank you thank you Whitney."
This class will teach you
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To track & understand boundaries, anger, and anxiety at a nervous system level.
To shift irritation & frustration into clarity & power through the body
What a healthy fight response is and why it's essential for a life that feels vital and energizing
The difference between a fight and flight response (the difference between and how to work with irritation and anxiety).
Powerful practices that you can implement immediately
To feel when your voice, body, and energy are all sending the same message and when they aren't
To digest and process layers old layers of fight response in healthy, doable ways (no need for intense catharsis)
The four embodied faculties of boundaries (penetrate, lean back, push out, receive)
How to trust your instincts and use them in service to your creativity, relationships, and service in the world.
EDGES will not teach you
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How to be okay with things you aren't okay with
How to 'convince' someone to respect your boundaries
How to think your way out of anger/anxiety (it doesn't work)
How to stop being a messy human navigating relationships with other messy humans
Healthy boundaries allow us to feel safe to open.
If you always feel 'on-guard', chances are your system is craving boundaries work and to feel power in your body. When you can work with the wisdom and instincts of anger, you can relax into our life. You can receive more fully. You can open without fear.
Healthy fight response says,
"I can, I matter, I want."
When your fight response is dormant, it's easy to feel muted, confused, and drained. To constantly look to others for the answers and to provide what we need in ways that tend to give away our power.
"The very first class taught me more about what was happening in my nervous system than countless years of therapy. WOW. I am blown away.
It's like so much of what I have been struggling with suddenly makes sense. Like everything just clicked into place for me. And now I have some tools and practices to be able to work with my system rather than against it. Highly recommend."
Nervous system work builds over time. The more your system experiences what it feels like to hold boundaries, to be with and activate your healthy fight response, the more capability and capacity you'll experience.
IF YOU'RE TIRED OF THE MENTAL GYMNASTICS THAT ARE LEAVING YOU HAZY AND CONFUSED.
If YOU'RE TIRED OF THE SAME OLD LANGUAGE AND CONCEPTS AROUND BOUNDARIES & ANGER THAT DON'T ACTUALLY TEACH YOU HOW TO RELATE TO YOURSELF WITH POWER,
join us.
These are real skills that create a coherent inner experience
of power and safety. That support you to gently melt through freeze and reconnect to your inherent sense of aliveness and dignity.
"I can catch low level fight responses and meet them in an embodied way."
"One of the main things I gained from Edges is the ability to track my system in real time. I can catch low level fight responses (agitation, frustration, irritation) and meet them in an embodied way that allows the energy to move and open up, giving me more aliveness, clarity and presence in the moment. Where as before they would build into resentment or an overall hardness in my system that made me feel shut down. By working with my anger I really feel how much more alive I become."
THE DETAILS
FRIDAY, DECEMBER 1st - SATURDAY, DECEMBER 30th
Live Teaching / Practice Calls will be on Fridays @ 2pm CST
Demo Sessions / Q+As will be on Saturdays @ 10:30am CST
THE INVESTMENT
$250 pay in full
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2 payments of $125
If you've already taken EDGES or you are a current 1:1 client and you wanna keep deepening, use code EDGESX2 for half off.
Once you register, you'll receive an email with all the details.
If you haven't received a confirmation please reach out to: contact@whitneyullom.com
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
HOW DO I KNOW IF EDGES IS RIGHT FOR ME?
EDGES is right for you if you are seeking an embodied approach to boundaries and anger, and you want to actually practice through your body vs. trying to do more mental gymnastics. If you keep trying to 'figure it out' and it doesn't seem to be working, this experience might be right for you.
EDGES is right for you if you have a hard time expressing your anger and you want a gentle, but powerful approach to begin to open the door of that expression.
EDGES is right for you if you resonate with Whitney as a teacher and as a human, and you aren't looking for a quick fix. These are tools that you'll be encouraged to practice.
If you have further questions about the course, you can contact our team at contact@whitneyullom.com
WHEN ARE THE CALLS?
The learning/practice calls are on Fridays at 2pm central. The demo sessions and Q&A calls are on Saturdays at 10:30am central. We'll meet every Friday & Saturday in December.
WILL THE SESSIONS BE RECORDED?
This experience will be recorded, but we HIGHLY ENCOURAGE you to attend live. That way we can support you as questions arise and you'll get to feel really held in the experience.
Part of the intention of this workshop is to provide a clear space where you are really present together. Watching a recording makes it easier to check-out, hit pause, and not actually do the thing together.
WHAT'S YOUR REFUND POLICY?
We have made strong efforts to be as clear and transparent as possible about what you'll receive in this course experience. There are no refunds for already paid funds except in very unique circumstances.
There are lots of teachers out there, so please make sure you resonate with me and my style of teaching.
If for some reason you are unsatisfied with your purchase within the first week of the course, please reach out to contact@whitneyullom.com so we can figure out the best course of action.
If you have additional questions before purchasing, please reach us at contact@whitneyullom.com
ADDITIONAL QUESTIONS?
Reach out to us at contact@whitneyullom.com
"This experience really put things into perspective for me and connected me to my body in a way I didn’t know I was disconnected from it."
"It was really helpful and powerful to understand more of this through my physicality and connecting to/understanding how my body is feeling. I also really liked the group aspect and the permission it gave. Just thank you 🤍 thank you for doing this work."